In Hungary, which is currently fighting so hard to maintain its Christian values, you are judged not by your deeds but by your physical appearance. And your alpearance better hold up, and it better comform to the natioanal standard. For a woman that means being 1,70m tall and maintaining a bodyweight of no more than 45 kilos. 50 is permissible, if she had children, or is middle-aged, but not a gram more. She also has to be hairless, perfectly tanned, with perfect nails and long healthy hair. Where French and Italian women dress up for a love of fashion, Hungarian women do it to show that they can, and to avoid being shamed. Boyfriends are not above telling their girlfriends off in public if they feel that she doesn’t “hold up.” A boyfriend demanding that his girl stand by the pool in a bikini that showcases her best features while he swims laps during practice is as normal as decamping to Lake Balaton for at least part of the summer. As is him screaming at her for making him look bad in front of his mates. The reason? Her bikini bottoms slipped just the tiniest bit to reveal a barely noticeable tan line.
I used to think it was just athletes, but it’s everywhere. Girls are made to understand from an early age, that her life is only worth living with a man by her side (not a partner, a man). Asking a newborn, “whose sweetheart are you? Which boy will marry you” is again as normal as that obligatory trip to the Mecca of all holy meccas in Hungary, Lake Balaton. For where else can you showcase your best assets for everyone to get jealous over. Other people’s jealousy is as coveted as the latest designer whatnot.
It really makes you think though. Have these people even read the Bible? Do they understand its message? Do they know what love, empathy, compassion means? When you have nothing to show for yourself because you’re forever underpaid or whatever you need just isn’t there, it’s easy to turn your body into a material asset. But then why do other countries manage to avoid this? Why are other countries more giving, more caring.