I mentioned my uncle. And getting over my inner laziness, by using an online dictionary, I managed to surmise that he died in September. So far so interesting. As I told my aunt in an email, they say funerals bring out all kinds of truths, so I guess this is it. Right before launching into a somewhat pressing question. A rumor really. Or maybe it’s fact. No one really knows except for three people, and of those one is no longer with us and two are at loggerheads.
Those of you who follow Helsinki-Budapest on Twitter, will know what I mean. Or will at least put two and two together. I asked my aunt because I was tired of all the lies and games, and I wanted her to know that while I don’t like any of the relatives and won’t talk to them, I won’t be pushed around.
The thing I asked her about involved a breach of trust on her part. Thing is, I’m actually ok with that. Meaning I can step back and let the adults work it out. Technically, it’s not any of my business. It happened, everyone moved on. And it won’t affect my life. Except that it is somewhat. My business. And it does affect my life. If the person who accused my aunt of doing what she did was telling a lie, what else did they lie about? Without sounding prideful (yeah, I used that word), I consider myself a pretty decent judge of character. Right before shit went down with whatever relative, I’d call it every time. But in this case I’m honest-to-goodness stumped. I have an idea, but I couldn’t call it 100%. I would most certainly not dare stake my life.
And so I asked, in more than 140 characters, and respectfully presenting the question by explaining my position. I haven’t spoken to the instigator yet. That may or may not be a question of time. It’ll be interesting to witness their reaction. But since they claim not to be able to use the internet, seeing their face will be hard. This one I can actually call easily. There will be first surprise, then denial, then calling me crazy and all sorts of names. Regardless of whether the rumor is true or not. My aunt is the only one who can truthfully answer this question, though whether she’ll choose to or not is another question. So far she hasn’t replied, and she usually did within twelve hours. I’m not sorry I brought it up, just would have preferred to do it in person. Though distance being a huge factor, that wasn’t very likely.
So, what would you have done? Would you have brought it up or let sleeping dogs lie?